Historically, doilies main purpose was protecting wood furniture and upholstery, and providing a decorative padding on a table for food and drinks. These days, although lovely, they are heirlooms of the past. Yet, to celebrate their delicate intricacies, we decided to experiment with them as stencils, The ladies in Mary B’s enjoyed this task, as it took extra effort to penetrate every tiny perforation. Additionally, there was some respectful instruction offered to each other on how to best achieve optimal results. Upon finishing, one resident suggested creating a patchwork design similar to a quilt, to which the others readily agreed. This approach highlights the Montessori Inspired lifestyle which encourages flexibility and choice. The outcome was so appealing, we decided to display the art so others could enjoy!

We want to extend a heartfelt thank you to all of the incredible community leaders who joined us at Fluid Coffee Roasters for our monthly Coffee & Connections yesterday! These mornings aren't just for the coffee, they’re an opportunity to come together with passionate, credible organizations who are dedicated to serving and supporting our senior community. Your time, insight, and collaboration truly make a difference, and we are so grateful to be part of such a compassionate and committed network. As we continue to grow, our goal is to build a strong, connected ecosystem of professionals who can collectively meet the evolving needs of the seniors and families we serve right here in Crown Point and the surrounding communities. If you represent an organization that supports seniors and would like to be part of these meaningful conversations, we’d love to have you join us at an upcoming Coffee & Connections! #BickfordOfCrownPoint #CoffeeAndConnections #StrongerTogether #SeniorCareCommunity

When Love Feels Like Guilt: Why Timing Matters in Memory Care Decisions Making the decision to transition a loved one into memory care is one of the most emotional journeys a family can face. For many, it’s not just a practical decision but deeply personal. It’s layered with love, responsibility, and often… guilt. If you’ve ever thought: “Am I giving up on them?” “Could I have done more?” “Is it too soon?” You’re not alone. In fact, research shows that over half of caregivers report feeling guilt when moving a loved one into a care community. [aarp.org] But what many families don’t realize is this: The real risk often isn’t moving too soon generally it’s waiting too long. Understanding the Guilt: It Comes From Love, Not Failure Guilt is one of the most common emotions families experience during this transition. It can show up in many ways: Feeling like you’re abandoning your loved one Grieving the life they once had Questioning whether you’ve done enough Even feeling guilty for experiencing moments of relief These emotions are normal. They don’t mean you’ve made the wrong decision. In fact, experts emphasize that guilt and grief often occur together because families are adjusting to a major life change and loss of routine, not failing in their role as caregivers. [caregiversns.org] It’s important to remember: Choosing additional support doesn’t mean you love them less—it often means you recognize they need more than one person can safely provide. The Hidden Cost of Waiting “Just a Little Longer” Many families delay memory care because it feels like the compassionate thing to do. They tell themselves: “They’re doing okay for now.” “Let’s give it a little more time.” “We’re not ready yet.” But situations can change quickly. 1. Decisions Often Become Crisis-Driven Waiting often leads to transitions happening after: A fall A hospitalization A medical emergency When that happens, families are forced to act quickly without time to explore options or prepare emotionally. [asburyheights.org] Instead of making a thoughtful choice, the decision is made under pressure. 2. Health and Safety Risks Increase Over Time Without consistent care and supervision, small challenges can quietly become serious issues: Missed medications Poor nutrition Undetected medical conditions Increased risk of falls and injuries These are not uncommon. As needs increase, living at home without adequate support can become unsafe faster than families anticipate. [heathwooda...living.com] 3. Independence and Dignity Can Be Lost One of the most overlooked consequences of waiting is the loss of choice. When families move forward early, their loved one can: Be part of the decision Tour communities Help choose their new space Adjust gradually But when the move happens after a crisis, that opportunity is often gone. Instead, transitions may happen suddenly, sometimes after a hospital stay, leaving individuals feeling confused, powerless, or even resentful. [yourkeytos...ptions.com] 4. Emotional Strain Builds on the Entire Family Caregiving can slowly become overwhelming. Many families don’t realize how much stress they’ve been carrying until support is in place. It’s also common to feel both relief and guilt at the same time—and that emotional mix can be confusing. [health.usnews.com] But relief doesn’t mean you didn’t care. It often means the situation had become unsustainable. A Different Way to Look at the Decision Choosing memory care isn’t about giving something up. It’s about: Safety – consistent monitoring and support Health – proactive care and early intervention Connection – social engagement and structured activities Peace of mind – for both your loved one and your family It also allows you to return to your most important role; being a spouse, son, or daughter again… not just a caregiver. Planning Ahead Creates Better Outcomes Families who plan ahead often experience: More control over the decision More time to explore options A smoother emotional transition Better overall outcomes for their loved one They aren’t reacting, they’re preparing with intention and care. You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone If you’re in the middle of this decision, or even just beginning to think about it, I want you to know something: There is no “perfect” timing. There is only thoughtful timing. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself. Whenever you feel ready, I’m here to listen, answer questions, and help you walk through your options—at your pace, without pressure. Helpful Resources to Explore If you’d like to learn more, these articles offer valuable insights into both the emotional and practical aspects of this decision: How to Cope With Guilt When a Parent Enters a Nursing Home Managing Emotions After Moving a Loved One to Senior Living Coping with Guilt and Grief After Nursing Home Placement Why Waiting Too Long Can Backfire Hidden Dangers of Waiting Too Long to Move to Assisted Living The Risks of Delaying Assisted Living If this message resonates with you, I’d be honored to be a resource for your family. Whether you’re just starting the conversation or need help determining next steps, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Warmly, Joshua Warren Family Advocate, Bickford of Crown Point

Repurposing is always a fulfilling way to spend one’s time, especially if it involves helping someone out. We, at Bickford of Crown Point were offered large garden pots that were ready for recycling, but were actually the ideal size for a bedroom waste can. Kind of boring, so the residents in Mary B’s “enhanced” them using tape, sponges, and paint. Practicing the Montessori principles and breaking down this task into simple steps made it enjoyable for the residents and staff, plus we created a decorative but functional item for the next new resident’s room.

The gardening spree continues in Mary B’s, where planting of the remaining tomatoes and peppers took place. We had one willing participant ready to roll, with the others choosing to relax and watch. It’s all good, as having a choice creates a balanced environment where all residents thrive. That’s Montessori Living y’all!

Coffee. Connection. Community. Hey senior living professionals. Got coffee plans Friday morning? Join us for Coffee & Connections next Friday, June 12th at 8:30 AM at Fluid Coffee Roasters! This isn’t your typical networking event. No pressure, no agendas. Just great coffee, genuine conversations, and a group of professionals who are passionate about serving seniors and their families. It’s the perfect chance to: Reconnect with familiar faces Meet new colleagues in the industry Share what’s happening in your world Start your day with a little positivity (we all need that!) Whether you're looking to collaborate, exchange ideas, or simply enjoy a warm cup of coffee with good people, we’d love to see you there. RSVP with Joshua: joshua.warren@bickfordseniorliving.com

The Bickford of Crown Point garden is finally complete! After planting tomato, pepper, cucumber, zucchini, strawberry, basil, and thyme in the hot, but glorious sunshine, we were ready for a break. But since the soil was so dry from a lack of rain, we powered through to finish quenching the thirst of the dehydrated dirt. Now it’s up to mother nature to nurture and enrich the plants to produce! Many thanks to Jo Jo for helping out, and practicing the Montessori principles.

Cruisin’ for a Cause at Bickford! Join us for an afternoon of community, classic cars, and great food all for something bigger than ourselves. On Thursday, July 16th from 12:00–2:00 PM, Bickford of Crown Point is hosting our Car Show & BBQ Fundraiser to support the Lake County Walk to End Alzheimer’s Every dollar raised goes toward helping families impacted by Alzheimer’s and dementia, something so many of us are touched by in one way or another. What to expect: Classic & custom cars Fresh-off-the-grill BBQ Music & community fun A chance to support an incredible cause Our goal: $2,000 for Team Bickford We would love your help getting there! Come out, bring a friend, enjoy some great food, and help us keep the memories alive for those we serve every day. - Bickford of Crown Point - Thursday, July 16 - 2:00–2:00 PM Donations welcome at the event or email Joshua at joshua.warren@bickfordseniorliving.com to support our team in advance!

It’s time to get our hands dirty at Bickford of Crown Point! After taking our residents out to the garden center to choose veggies and herbs, we moved on to clearing out the ivy coated home for our healthy plants. It took a minute, but after a little elbow grease, the area is now cleared and ready for the new inhabitants!

Bickford of Crown Point is happy to announce that after registering for our first time we were voted 2nd Place for the Best Memory Care in the Region! We are extremely honored for this achievement and will continue in our efforts to bring quality conscious care to each of our residents. We thank everyone that casted a vote for us and pray that our efforts continue to make a positive impact in the lives our community! #BickfordOfCrownPoint #HigherPath #MontessoriMemoryCare #BestOfTheRegion